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This is supposed to be an Ambercon post

Except for the part where it's not. Suffice to say, wonderful fun times were had. And I came home with great memories, fun quotes, new friends, a billion little soaps and shampoos...and con crud. Huzzah!

Then I got home. And I heard the words I hate most in the world: "We need to talk."

When I was a kid, that was the harbinger of doom. I don't think I have ever expressed to Kent the extent to which those words in that order are NOT OKAY TO USE WITH ME.

The Patriarch called while I was gone. He specifically waited until I was gone (coward). He told Kent as much.

Apparently, Johnnie Fae got upset about my fb posts about the trip. Did I have some fun at Lars' expense? Yes. Did I say anything negative about her hospitality? Uh, no.

I can see getting upset if someone attacks your partner (gee, I wouldn't know anything about that).

Yes, I had some negative things to say about Lars. If THAT'S why she went on the offensive, I totally get it. I've wanted to shiv people when they have less than positive things to say about Kent. Fine.

I obviously need to learn manners on social media.

But I had nothing negative to say other than I was offended over Lars proving he is every chauvinistic cliché that a woman working in a kitchen encounters.

So Kent got hijacked by his dad on the phone this weekend.

On the upside, it will be a cold day in hell before I am allowed back in his house. I am strangely okay with that.

On the downside, he managed to get under my skin in ways I didn't even know existed.

So Kent stays with me just because he can't get anyone else, and his dating pool is limited because he's older, doesn't make six figures and doesn't own a car. Or so I've heard.

Apparently, I'm the big door prize.

I cant' even begin to describe how angry I.am.


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Apr. 16th, 2014 10:09 pm (UTC)
"we need to talk" is absolutely the worst phrase!

I'm sorry about this stuff.
Apr. 17th, 2014 12:24 am (UTC)
It is the worst.
Apr. 16th, 2014 10:14 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry :(

Apr. 16th, 2014 10:33 pm (UTC)
I don't think what you posted on FB was mean or anything like that -- yeah, you poked fun at him, but that was it. Johnnie Fae must truly be hypersensitive, I guess?

Nevertheless, it sucks. I'm sorry.

Apr. 16th, 2014 11:27 pm (UTC)
Your FIL is quite the charmer, isn't he?


Apr. 16th, 2014 11:52 pm (UTC)
oh people. when will you ever learn that you can't control what other people think or say, nor SHOULD you TRY.

And if someone wants me to speak well of them, they should treat me better than they did.

and yeah. total fucking coward.

I would be Strangely Okay With It as well.
Apr. 17th, 2014 12:53 am (UTC)
Well DAMN...there goes that immediate return trip you were planning...oh...wait...

Guess this means you don't have to have them over to your house, either. JOY!!

What a basket of crap to be met with.

I'm wicked glad that you had a great time at the con, though...crud notwithstanding.

Apr. 18th, 2014 11:17 am (UTC)
I'll just have to visit Savannah instead. :)
Apr. 20th, 2014 02:54 am (UTC)
Yessssssssssssss...yes, you most certainly will! :D
Apr. 17th, 2014 01:20 am (UTC)
I'd like to tell you that you shouldn't let him get to you; that he isn't worth it.

But really, you know better than I what a pathetic excuse for a human being he is.

And unfortunately someone being worthless does not remove their power to say hurtful things (I would have had a happier adolescence were that the case).

So, at risk of being unoriginal, I'll go with:

Apr. 17th, 2014 01:32 pm (UTC)
Apr. 17th, 2014 03:36 am (UTC)
Hugs. Been there. It sux. Hugs again. AW
Apr. 17th, 2014 03:41 am (UTC)
Oh good. You don't have to go back there.

There's an Anne Lamott quote that I only remember the gist of. "If they wanted me to be kind when I wrote, they should have treated me better". Basically, that.

His dad is such an ass, I'm surprised he doesn't have long ears.

Also, if they (or just she) had a problem with what you wrote, why didn't they contact *you*? Yeah, I know, 'cause it's easier to be passive/aggressive through another person.

Can you just imagine how he'd explode if Kent had said the same thing to him? And not just because it's complete and utter bullshit.

I'm glad you don't have to go there any longer. They don't deserve time with you.
Apr. 17th, 2014 03:56 am (UTC)
So...he's allowed to be an offensive ass but you are not allowed to take offense?

If he doesn't like something you did, he needs to take it up with you, not with Kent. Poor Kent doesn't deserve to get shat upon with your FiL's crap with you. Wuss.
Apr. 17th, 2014 06:05 am (UTC)

Apr. 17th, 2014 07:13 am (UTC)
What a coward.

Apr. 17th, 2014 07:56 am (UTC)
That's just total bullshit. You have every right to be angry!
Apr. 17th, 2014 02:14 pm (UTC)
To paraphrase something I said to an ex-boyfriend many years ago, 'If you don't want me to say you're a chauvinistic jerk, then stop being a chauvinistic jerk.'

So cowardly of him to wait to call until you were away and childishly spiteful for dumping all this other shit on Kent in the process. Karma has a jackboot with his name on it.
Apr. 17th, 2014 04:15 pm (UTC)
I've had to explain to two people recently that, "We need to talk," is the worst possible thing you could say to me. Don't tell me we need to talk and most CERTAINLY do not tell me we need to talk "later." If we're going to talk, just say whatever the fuck you have to say and spare me the heart attack.

Sorry you're having to deal with this stuff.
Apr. 17th, 2014 04:47 pm (UTC)
Agree with the "We need to talk" being a bad phrase. I need to get better about not using it, because sometimes it slips out.

That said (and I seem to be saying this a lot lately), FB and LJ and all other social media sites are YOUR places. If you want to vent, fine - do it. Anyone who doesn't like what you had to say is cordially invited to have a nice, cold tall frothy glass of "Shut The Fuck Up". They don't like what you said, maybe they should either a: re-evaluate their actions or b: GTFO.

Either way, those of us who remain are still here and we still got your back.

Sending hugs and virtual chocolates from the DC area...
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