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Hard to believe...

Nine years ago today, I was boarding a planein New Jersey for a long weekend visit to my boyfriend in North Carolina.

Long (very complicated and rather painful) story short, unbeknownst to us, that was the first day of our life as a NON-LDR couple.  We got our own place a month later.

A year later, he proposed.

It's funny.  It doesn't seem like it's been that long, and yet it seems like things have always been this way.

So, of course, we celebrated as one does on such monumentous occasions:  splitting a can of Spaghettios when I came home from work before he went in to work.  Romantic, huh?

The next while is going to be a lot like this, I fear.  I'm doing a seven day stretch; he's doing a six.  And it looks like it is going to be lather, rinse, repeat for a while.  So most days, we'll be seeing each other for 45 minutes, an hour tops.  Aside from nighst where I take a nap and wait for him to come home, sit up together for a while (while playing Munchkin, usually.  The July Tourney begins tonight!), and spend the next day guzzling iced tea at work.

Feh.  Double feh.  Well, if nothing else, we are both focusing more on being fully present with each other in the time we DO have together.  So that's a good thing.

I think I'm going to make a list of fun stuff to do on the nights I'm by myself, rather than spend the entire time either doing housework (okay, that happens kinda rarely) or binge watching cooking shows and/or Law & Order reruns while eating cold cereal for supper (the usual).  I really need to channel my (profound lack of) energy during my alone time somewhere else.

I'm open to suggestions, btw.

Tonight, however, I get to go "shopping" in my Inspiration Cabinet for a new notebook.  (Yes, I hoard blank books and notebooks.  And I keep them--along with my crayons, colored pencils, coloring books, and some chosen books-- in this nifty cabinet/bookcase thingie Kent found me during one of the great student move out sidewalk scavengefest)  And figure out what I'm going to read next.

I have to laugh at myself, because my biggest non-resident-related work worry today was that I would run out of something to read or write in before the commute home.  As it was I finished up the last bit of the last page in my journal as the J pulled up.  My usual driver waited until I finished up my sentence with a flourish.  I stepped on the bus, snapped (well, more like "thwapped" because it is spiral bound) it shut, and said "Finished!"  She high fived me.

It's kind of fun being know as the weird girl with the notebook.


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Jul. 6th, 2017 02:21 am (UTC)
hurray for a Great Guy and a notebook !
Jul. 6th, 2017 05:04 am (UTC)
Enjoy your non-conformity. It's what keeps you, you! :)

Bummer about not seeing your significant other, more. But I don't see mine much, either. And yeah, I've been trying to make what little time we have mean more. But we've been married 19, going on 20 years, and together in total for 22 years. We still love one another, but we both are growing and changing in different directions. I wonder how we both will feel in five years?
Jul. 6th, 2017 06:39 am (UTC)
Oh, you are a NJ-to-NC person, too!

Maybe you could channel your energy into: baking? artsy stuff? music? solitaire?
Jul. 7th, 2017 04:41 pm (UTC)
I only lived in NJ for a few years (when I got divorced, the ex got custody of my kids and moved in with his parents. I moved to PA to be closer, and eventually ended up moving in with him and his folks), but...yeah. It's a bit of culture shock, huh?

So, where in NJ and NC, if you don't mind my asking? I went from Stanhope to Chapel Hill.
Jul. 11th, 2017 12:08 am (UTC)
I'm going from Jackson to somewhere in the vicinity of Youngsville. My sister+fam live in the area, my mom wants to move by this time next year, and though I'd love to stay in NJ I do have to go along. Culture shock, indeed, haha.
Jul. 6th, 2017 09:27 am (UTC)
Time flies.

Happy Anniversary.
Jul. 6th, 2017 11:19 am (UTC)
Congratulations! We have gotten to that point in our celebration of anniversaries as well, but it too us a bit longer.
Jul. 6th, 2017 11:53 am (UTC)
Congrats and enjoy the "new" notebook!
Jul. 6th, 2017 12:21 pm (UTC)
Congrats on your anniversary! Greg and I started out as LDR, too. I can never remember how long I've been married until I do the math. We've been putting up with each other for probably too damned long but we're too irritating for other people, so we keep doing it.

Yay for weird girls with notebooks! :)
Jul. 7th, 2017 04:43 pm (UTC)
I have to look back on LJ to get the number of years right. :)

Kent and I joke that we're too weird for the general population, so the Universe has put us in quarantine together.
Jul. 6th, 2017 03:35 pm (UTC)
For my alone time activities, I really get into RuneScape. It helps pass the time in a fun way. I also love to read. Social media is a fun distraction as well. I browse Facebook, Twitter, LJ, sometimes snapchat, youtube, instagram etc.

I play a phone app that takes up some of my time. Bakery Story! Haha. It's kind of lame but totally fun. They do goals and have holiday items and stuff. It's fun. :) Part of the thing that makes it take time is that the game requires having neighbors to really, truly get anywhere, and so they need to be visited, tipped, gifted, and a comment left on their wall, daily. I only have about 20 neighbors, but it still takes about 15 minutes to get through everyone.

Those are my interests though. They don't really feel like distractions. I genuinely have fun and look forward to that kind of stuff.

I'm glad you and your husband?/partner/guy are making the best of the time that you do get together. That's super important! ♥

Edit: Because I realized I made an assumption. Oops!

Edited at 2017-07-06 03:36 pm (UTC)
Jul. 7th, 2017 04:51 pm (UTC)
Don't worry about the assumption. He's my husband, but I prefer spousebeast (I'm spousegrrl. Yeah, we are that weird, nerdy couple).

Bakery Story sounds like fun.
Jul. 6th, 2017 06:51 pm (UTC)
As long as you share it with the right person, a can of Spaghettios can be romantic! :)
Jul. 7th, 2017 07:20 pm (UTC)
I love the idea of an Inspiration Cabinet! LOVE LOVE LOVE!

Finishing a notebook is such a great feeling!
Jul. 11th, 2017 04:56 pm (UTC)
huh... nine years? Whoa it really has been that long. Also it's kind of neat to share an anniversary with you two. July 5th is the anniversary of the first time D and I got married, but not in the lawful way, in the "matters most to us" kind of way.

Yay love, and yay for finding that person who Cherishes you the way you Fucking Deserve. <3 <3 <3
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